How could something so good turn out to be so difficult? We had such a great time together, we shared so many common interests, our friends approved of our choices in our partner and yet here we are at a crossroads in our relationship.
I've been there before, the hurt the let down, the less than desirable thought of beginning yet again to try to find "the one".
Why not begin where you are and where you've left off and decide to make your relationship work, live an inspired life and make a difference in the world around you.
In a society that embraces Hollywood style romance and disposable relationships it's no wonder that the divorce rate for first marriages is over 51%.
Second marriages escalate to over a 70% failure rate! What if we began to embrace the idea of marriage being permanent just as we so naively believe when we were young? What if we celebrated those in the 49% of successful first marriages or 30% of second marriages that go on to live joyful fulfilling lives? How different would our world be with cohesive families setting better standards and guidelines for our children, and for each other? In past generations we have never seen such decay in our relationships as a whole.
So inundated we are as a generation by the promise of the next best thing coming along and we don't want to miss out on something better.
Could we begin to set a new tone in our relationships, to build up rather than break down? What if we took a stand for our relationships, for our marriages, for our children? I believe we could be the generation that affects that kind of change in our country.
We will begin by emphasizing the positive attributes of our marriages and relationships.
We will decide that our permanent bond is more valuable than a fleeting romance or any other distraction that would impede the growth of our relationships.
We will make the decision to make our marriage or relationship a priority.
We will set a standard in our homes that failure is not an option with our partners, that it will never be discussed as a possibility.
All of this is not to suggest that every relationship can or will be perfect, certainly in an abusive relationship, individual safety is of paramount importance.
If you find yourself in this situation, seek help immediately, there are most certainly deeper issues requiring professional assistance to assure a positive result there.
So what is the perfect loving relationship? It is a relationship of acceptance for each other.
It is a relationship where both partners agree to not only take care of 50% of the relationship, it is where they both agree to always give 100% of themselves for the betterment of the marriage or relationship.
Overcoming obstacles is part of life, when we have a partner sharing in our difficulties and working alongside us for a solution, we are certain to experience greater joy and fulfillment in our lives.
Be grateful everyday for all that you have together to make the successful minority the new majority.