If you think breaking up is hard, try remaining friends with your ex after the break up.
When a relationship ends, it's inevitable that one person will always have lingering feelings for the other.
If your boyfriend is the one who broke things off, you may already be thinking of ways to get him back.
One of them? The ex boyfriend friendship.
This allows you to stay in touch with your ex, still keep tabs on him, and stay within throwing distance of starting up a new romance.
For any girl who wants to win back her ex boyfriend, this seems like a fantastic idea.
On the surface, anyway.
In reality however, there are few things more tricky than keeping up a relationship with your ex boyfriend.
Such an arrangement is riddled with problems from the very beginning, starting with the fact that you're still in love with your ex.
Any time you want your ex boyfriend more than he wants you, disappointment is sure to follow.
Even in the case of supposed friendship, you're going to ultimately be upset with the arrangement for many reasons.
Jealousy, bitterness, envy...
these are only some of the initial problems.
During the entire ex boyfriend relationship, any time he goes out and does something fun without you...
you're going to feel jealous that you can't be with him.
Anytime he sees another girl, or even starts dating again, you're going to be bitter about it.
And as your ex boyfriend finally announces that he has a new girlfriend, you're going to be angry that you never got the chance to reconcile your own broken romance.
The hopeless and despair that you put off feeling when you broke up? It'll come back tenfold, because now you have to deal with it up close and personal as your ex boyfriend's "friend".
Being honest with yourself is crucial.
If you're looking to win back your boyfriend, you first need to admit it.
Once you do, you can start working on that task.
There are many great methods and techniques to get your ex boyfriend interested in you again, but none of them can be accomplished from a position of friendship.
Which is why you can't ever be friends with an ex that you're still in love with.
And even if you don't get back together with your ex? The complications of an ex boyfriend relationship can also extend into any future you might make with a new boyfriend.
Imagine how your new guy will feel about you still talking to, emailing with, and maybe even seeing your ex? A guy who you once dated? Who you once slept with? The idea probably isn't going to go over well for him.
So either he'll resent your arrangement (causing you in turn to resent him) or he'll forbid you from continuing to see your ex.
This will eventually lead to problems, arguments, and possibly another breakup.
Friendship is never the answer when you really want something else.
Creating a platonic relationship that's not really platonic will only create confusion and problems later on down the line.
Save yourself the hurt, and take a look at the situation from an honest standpoint.
If you really do think you can make it work with your ex? Go after him as a potential girlfriend again...
not as his buddy or pal.