When your boyfriend dumped you, it seemed like your life was over. You had lost the only man in the world for you and all your dreams of a home and family melted away. That is the thoughts most women have after a breakup, but things might not be as bad as you think. With the proper attitude you can turn this around and make your ex boyfriend regret the breakup.

The best way to get your man back is by making him sorry he dumped you. You have to push his hot buttons and show him that he needs you more than you need him. When he sees that you can live without him, he will no longer feel in control. The only reason he can be so smug and keep rejecting your efforts to communicate with him is because he thinks you can't live without him.

It is amazing how an ex boyfriend can be so stubborn when he thinks he is in control, but if you take away that control he becomes a pitiful little boy again. He will tell you he is sorry and beg you to take him back. He will be willing to get on his knees if you ask him to. What a change using a little male psychology to push his hot buttons will make.

You will be getting inside your ex boyfriend's mind and shaping his thinking. When that happens, you will be the one in control and he will feel like you have just dumped him. Up until now you have been thinking like a woman, but now you will be thinking the way your ex thinks. This will not be using tricks or manipulation, you will simply be pushing his hot buttons that cause him to react in a certain way.

All you have to do to start things going your way is to stop chasing your ex. Just have the strength to walk away and start living your life without him. Go out with your friends and flirt with the guys. Be the happy carefree woman you were when your ex boyfriend met you. It won't take him long to see that you could be in the arm's of another guy soon.

All of this will make you a challenge to your ex boyfriend again. He does not want to lose you and suddenly he will realize how much in love with you he is. Then he will begin to miss you like crazy and start chasing you again. Now you need to hold him off for a while until he becomes desperate. Then tell him that the two of you need to talk.

When you meet him be sure to look your best and have your emotions under control. Look him in the eye and tell him how bad he hurt you and that you do not ever want to feel that way again. Remember, you are the one in control now and he is begging you to take him back. Make it clearly understood that if you do take him back, it will be for good.