Are you trying to win a girl back that has stolen your heart? Has your girl broken up with you or has she grown cold and distant and you fear that a breakup is coming soon? What can you do to win a girl back and how can you get her interested in you again without coming off like a wimp?

While there is a lot of advice out there and your friends are trying to be helpful by telling you what you should do if you want to win her back, the truth is that most of the popular advice just doesn't work. What might seem to make sense to most folks just won't get you the response that you might be looking for or it might possibly even make things worse! In situations where you can feel your girl slipping away or if she has already broken up with you, most of the mainstream advice on how to win your girl back will probably backfire on you.

Being Nice - You might have been told that if you want to win a girl back that you should trying being extra nice to her. Maybe someone told you to write her a nice letter or buy her a gift or be extra attentive as a way of winning her back. Maybe you have even tried these things and found that your kind gestures were returned with apathy or even anger, in some cases. All of this will leave you wondering what the heck is going on and why your girl is acting this way towards you. After all, doesn't everyone want people to be nice to them?

The reason why this doesn't work is because our kind gestures remind her of why she broke up with you. She will be thinking that it is too little too late and she might even tell you that you should have behaved this way before she broke up with you instead of afterward. In addition, being nice to someone that has broken up with you comes off as a little needy and weak. After all, who is nice to someone that has rejected them and broken their heart? So if you are hoping to win a girl back by being nice to her then think of something else.

Being Mean - You might think that if being nice won't win her back then maybe being mean will turn the tide. Maybe if you are mean to her she will go on the defensive and things will change. Maybe if you are mean to her she will have more respect for you and she will want to work to win you back and to get you to be nice to her again. The truth is that being mean will never win a girl back and if she is already upset with you, being mean will push her over the edge and seal your fate as the one guy that she will never want to see again.

Even being mean in a fun or teasing sort of way will be taken out of context and ruin your chances of winning a girl back. Right now you and your ex don't have the rapport that is necessary to play that sort of game with her and even when you do win her back you should be careful for a while unless you are able to gain the upper hand in the relationship and really turn things around.

What Does Work - So, what does work in helping you to win a girl back? Well, if you know anything about women you know that they are driven by emotions. Every decision that they make is based upon what they feel and the emotions that move them. This is why chick flicks are so popular with women as well as romance novels. Has it ever amazed you that a woman can be driven to tears by a movie? You see, women feel these emotions very deeply and even though it is a movie they are affected by them in such a real way that they will actually cry or become angry or feel the same emotions as if they were a character in the movie.

This should be a clue to you. In order for you to turn things around and gain the upper hand in your relationship and win your girl back you are going to have to play off of her emotions in that same way. Once you can move her emotionally without coming off like a weenie you will have some power to win her back. Once you can make her feel passion and desire and longing you will have something to work with. You may have already proven that you can bring out anger in her which really is a good sign. Anger is passion in disguise and it can be a very valuable signal that there still is hope if you are serious about winning her back.