So I tell this story all the time to my female friends and clients who always ask the question why men think it's ok for a man to sleep around while single and not ok for their women to sleep around while single. So I wanted to put this out there to help with that revolving question. (MY OPINION)

By the way in no way shape or form do I believe that it is right for a man to sleep with as many women as he can......... But truthfully women control that aspect, not the man.

Anyway, and the story begins...

Jay & Candace have been dating for a few weeks now, and decided to go window shopping and catch lunch at the mall. They both are fairly good looking people and as they are walking through the mall, they are of course holding hands, laughing and kissing each other randomly. (New love)

Case 1:
As they are walking through the mall Candace notices an old "one night stand" she had before meeting Jay. The "one night stand" makes eye contact with Candace and looks at Jay and continues walking.

Now in the guy's mind he's thinking..."Haha you put a ring on my fling, sucker!!" and in a man's competitive world that basically gives the "one night stand" leverage or "mental dominance" over Jay.

Case 2:
As Jay and Candace are walking through the mall, Jay notices an old "one night stand" he had before meeting Candace. The "one night stand" makes eye contact with Jay and looks at Candace and continues walking.

Now in the girl's mind she's thinking..."WTF! How the heck does she get to be with him, and I only got one night and no phone call. Lucky B****." So in a sense, Candace still gets to keep her "mental dominance" and in fact, shes even more dominant because Jay has the confidence to be with any woman, but chooses to give himself to Candace, meaning there is something special about Candace.

So the basic law (doesn't pertain to everyone):

-To most men, It's a plus for "wifey" to be a virgin or near virgin. Men only really care or desire "experience" in their "fun" girls.
-Women want "experience" in both the man they marry and their "fun" men, and in some cases will leave their man if he cannot satisfy them.

So as seen in Case 1 its all a matter of superiority and dominance, its what makes a man feel good. (Straight animal kingdom)

And Case 2, women don't necessarily care how many women a man has been with, as long as he is giving all of his energy and love to her. Because mostly every woman wants that, all one nighters will always be envious.
NOW.....THIS DOES NOT CONDONE CHEATING... LATER DISCUSSION...

LET THE DEBATE BEGIN!!!!!