Does it feel like your heart has been put through a blender? Are you literally pleading, begging, crying at your ex to get them back? Are you bombarding your ex with text messages emails or even camping out on their porches or even worse stalking them? If only your mind would stop going around and around asking all those questions. "What did he mean by that in his email?" "Why did she say that to me?" "None of this makes sense. We had a great time last week together" "Why did my boyfriend / girlfriend break up with me?" When you are trying to figure out how to get your ex back, there is a very fine line between sanity and insanity.

Here is something you might want to consider.... Share your love. Follow along with me here with some solid friendly advice for how to get your ex back.

If nothing has been working to get your ex back then don't continue to do what has not been working. The more you cling to your ex the more they will push away. This is normal human nature. How about trying something different.?

Up until this point all of your love has been on your ex....all of it until now that is. Instead of focusing all your love on your ex, turn it 180 degrees around and now share some of that love...on you....and others in need. Give your relationship with your ex some much needed time out. By sharing your love with yourself it will change the whole psychology of the situation around and you will have taken the first step toward getting your ex back.

First and foremost take care of yourself physically. The ancient Greeks knew long ago that there was a direct connection between the body and the mind. A strong body leads to a strong mind. Frankly when is it ever a bad idea to get in shape? Start running, join a gym, jump on a bicycle, go climb a mountain but whatever you do start moving your body everyday and give it some love. This puts the focus back on you.

Now go give your soul some love. Give yourself some time to be alone (I know this is the opposite of what you want to do right now). Read something inspirational. Write out your feelings. Look in the mirror and tell yourself out loud "I love you". If you can't love yourself do you really expect your ex to love you?

One of the healthiest things you can do for your soul when your ex has broken up with you is go and help someone else in need. Maybe at a soup kitchen or an old folks home or help someone in a prison to learn how to read. There is always someone that needs more help then ourselves. By helping someone else you are empowering yourself and is good for the soul. You may even make some new friends along the way!

In the mean time you ex is starting to wonder what has happened to you. You are no longer completely focused on them. They may even begin to start calling you or checking up on you. Just take it slow with getting back in touch. In your heart of course you have not forgotten about them. You have just started to share some of the love with yourself and others. You have now put yourself on solid ground to get your ex back. How do you get your ex back? Start sharing some of that love on yourself.