Being dumped can be bruising to anyone's self esteem. It can also be a difficult time if you find that you are still in love with your boyfriend causing you to use ineffective techniques to try to win him back such as begging, repeated phone calls, texts, stalking, etc. These methods will only push him further away from you. Here are effective tips to help you win your ex boyfriend back after being dumped by him.

Although there are no guarantees that you will be able to win him back, there are certain techniques that work better than others that will help you win your ex boyfriend back especially is you have asked yourself "How do I get my ex boyfriend back?" Begging, stalking, repeated phone calls, texts, emails, etc, will only make you appear desperate and pathetic to your boyfriend and push him away and will not help you get back with an ex.

Acting this way only makes you look very unattractive to your boyfriend and he may feel that he made the right decision by dumping you. This could also give him a sense of power over you that he can abuse at any time since he knows that you will do anything to get him back. This will not help you win him back for good. He will only use you when he feels like it without taking you back and restoring the relationship.

If you need to give yourself time for a good cry after being dumped, do this but do not do this for too long or wallow in self pity for too long. After giving yourself this time, you need to answer the question "Why did he dump me?" especially if you thought everything was going good. Do not assume why he dumped you. Making assumptions will not help you get back with an ex.

You need to ask him in a non threatening way why he decided to dump you as you try to get back with the ex. Only ask him if you are ready for him to be brutally honest with you. If you are afraid of the reasons and do not want to know, do not ask and simply move on from this relationship.

In the spirit of honesty and in order to be able to win your ex back, you then need to ask him if you are ready to face the truth, whether he thinks there is a chance of being able to restore the relationship. If you both identify issues in the relationship that you both can work on, you both need to discuss this and determine the level of commitment you both have to fixing the issues that led to the breakup. Unless you are willing to do this, you will not be able to get back with the ex.

If you ever want to have a shot at being able to get your ex back, honesty is crucial. Since you were dumped, he may not want to hurt you further by being brutally honest so you need to ensure that you convey to him that you value his brutal honesty no matter how hurtful it may be for you to hear.

Even if you do not get him back, you would have shown him and yourself that you can handle honesty and are willing to make the effort to save a relationship which will serve you well in your next relationship so that you avoid repeating the mistakes from your past relationship.