I recently heard from a wife who told me that her husband had not initiated sex for at least a month. This was strange behavior for her husband. Sure, there had been times in the past when they were both busy, stressed, or ill. And during these times, the frequency of sex had dropped off for them. But, it had never gotten to the point where they weren't having sex at all - until now.

The wife was very concerned and asked, in part: "if my husband doesn't ever want to have sex with me anymore, does this mean he's cheating on me? And if so, should I confront him about this?" I will try to address these concerns in the following article.

If A Man Is Not Interested In Sex, Does This Mean He's Cheating?: This was the question that the wife was most concerned with. And yes, sometimes this can mean a man is cheating. But it doesn't always mean this. There are various reasons that a man loses interest in sex during a certain people of time. Sometimes he really is stressed or distracted. Other times, there are issues in the marriage or relationship that just make it so that he's not in the mood or he can't separate the physical from the emotional right now.

And, sometimes, people are actually having a great sex life while one of them is cheating. Sometimes people who cheat are actually more interested in intercourse with their spouse or loved one either because they are trying to cover their tracks or because emotions are running high. So, the presence or absence of a sexual relationship can not say for certain that a person is or is not cheating.

Often, It's Not Just A Lack Of Sex That Points To Cheating. It's A Combination Of Things: People often ask me to identity specific signs of cheating. They'll bring up one thing that they are seeing and noticing and want to know if this one thing means that infidelity is happening. It's hard to diagnose infidelity due to one thing.

That's not to say that one sign might not be the thing that you notice the most or that cheating isn't taking place. But often, when people aren't being faithful, their spouse or loved one will see more than just one sign, especially if they are being observant. In other words, you may see your sex life diminishing along with your spouse being distracted, critical, or absent more than normal. It's often not just one solitary thing that you see. It's a combination of a couple of different things at one time. And this is all usually combined with a weird feeling in the pit of your stomach that is more persuasive than any of this.

Should You Confront Him About Cheating If Your Sex Life Has Been Affected?: This is completely up to you, but I have to tell you that confrontations about cheating often don't go very well. People very rarely admit to cheating and they often become defensive or even angry. This can harm a relationship that is already on shaky ground. Not only that, but if they are being unfaithful, they will often deny it and proceed to cover their tracks better to throw you off the trail.

So, while you may want to open up a discussion about this lack of interest in sex, I'm not sure that you really want to have a nasty confrontation. This is just my opinion of course. But in my observation accusing often doesn't turn out like you had hoped. There are ways to find out if someone is cheating, if it comes to that. But in my view, there are better ways to find out the truth than making accusations. And, in this particular case, addressing the sexual issue might have brought about an answer before an accusation was necessary.

I was in this same situation a short time ago. I tried to confront my husband too soon, before I had proof, and of course he denied everything. I tried to believe him, but the doubts remained. I decided that I really wanted to know the truth, no matter what that truth was. I learned how to get concrete information and proof that my husband thought that he had hid and erased. Once I presented this to him, he had no choice but to come clean. And I found exactly what I feared. You can read a very personal story at http://catch-the-cheating.com/