Sometimes it's worse trying to figure out who shouldn't come to the wedding rather than trying to figure out who to invite. There may be circumstances you don't want to deal with where you might have to hurt the feelings of someone to keep peace during the ceremony. There might also be people who you believe might want to be at the wedding, and others who you know really don't want to come.

The worst position to ever be in is having to choose between one friend and another. The truth is that your friends might not get along with each other, but do fine with you. In this instance, you might have more than one big decision to make. For instance, if you're thinking about asking one of the two people to be your maid or honor or best man, and you know the other person will react badly, it's not fair, but you have to make the decision.

The best way to do it is to figure out who gets along with more people that are coming to the wedding, especially family members. The one with the least amount of drama is the logical choice, and if the other person is your friend, he or she will understand. If you feel comfortable, you can mention it to that person and see if that person still wants to come. If not, you're off the hook. If so, go ahead and invite the person, just make sure they're not seated next to each other. But trust your instincts and get promises and assurances that there won't be any trouble.

Dealing with someone who feels you're a better friend to them than you believe is another issue. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but if you don't feel comfortable in inviting that person just tell them that you had to reduce the guest list to save on expenses. A rational person will understand and won't say anything; an irrational person really isn't your friend, and that's one less problem you'll ever have to deal with.

If it's a family member, go with your gut. If you don't like this person, don't invite them, even if you were invited to their wedding, which you probably didn't go to. Never invite someone to your wedding just to keep the peace; you'll resent it for the rest of your life, and it will show. Even if your parents are insistent, unless they're paying for the wedding, stick to your guns. But use good judgment when making the decision; if you know you can live with whatever consequences might arise later on, go for it.